274: Harnessing your Neuro-linguistic programming with Tony Wrighton

When you heard the phrase, “Neuro-linguistic Programing,” what first comes to mind? Do you picture mind control tactics? Does a scene from your favorite sci-fi movie come to mind? Often times there is a negative connotation surrounding NLP, and the terminology. In reality, it simply is a form of communication, invented in the 1970’s by Richard Bandler and John Grinder, that focuses on personal development and psychotherapy. NLP is a practice that is used to increase motivation, increase energy vitality, and optimize communication.

On this episode of the James Swanwick show, the topic of Neuro-linguistic Programing is explored, as Tony Wrighton, a British Sky Sports presenter, joins James. Tony is also an author and the host of the “Zestology,” podcast. Zestology is all about health, motivation, and biohacking. Today, he will tell us about how he rewired his brain to create a more improved self awareness. He will also discuss the tropical virus he picked up while exploring the jungle a few years ago and how it changed his life.  

Key Points

  • Neuro-linguistic Programing, a practice that everyone can learn.
  • NLP focuses on increasing energy vitality and motivation in a person.
  • NLP holds a poorly worded name for a great group of skills to optimize mind and body communication.
  • Although NLP is a positive practice, often times you will stumble upon someone using it improperly, or just poorly.
  • There is nothing worse than a bad NLPer. This is usually someone who learns the skills and uses them to get their way on everything, in a more manipulative manner.
  • Tony details his three months in bed because of picking up a tropical virus, when he was barely able to walk down the street.
  • When you are forced to lay low by something so physical like a virus, iy disables you from using NLP.
  • It was a dark time in Tony’s life, and what helped him recuperate as not traditional medication, but functional medicine. This inspired him to always look to functional treatments.
  • Originally, Tony got into NLP by practicing the skills on his radio show, by trying to get people to listen longer, and to gather more listeners. Over a period of four years, he gathered more listeners than the DJ held at the breakfast time slot.
  • NLP is all about tonality and persuasive language. You can harness the power of NLP with more descriptive language, as well as richer language. Bring in sensory
  • Part of NLP is about asking more open ended questions, instead of asking yes or no one’s.
  • An example of this is not asking a child when they want to tidy their room but asking whether they want to do it before or after dinner.
  • A yes set: Three statements that sound like questions, that will be answered with yes, that set a precursor to the actual question you have for them.
  • NLP is a positive practice for yourself as it allows you to reframe negative things in a more positive light. You can reframe, or retell the story that surrounds whatever is happening, simply changing the narrative.
  • We mainly experience the world in terms of visual, auditory, and kinesthetic but, if you have something from the past that is holding you back, simply reframe it.
  • NLP is supposed to be used to inspire someone, to motivate them to get what they want done, but you can also use it to persuade someone.
  • An example of this is by asking a person a question about something that brings an intense emotion of positivity from them. When they reach the climax of description, touch them lightly on the shoulder. Later if you want to persuade them to do something, lightly touch them on the shoulder again.

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